my boyfriend is putting too many restrictions on me

Hi, friends. Recently we came across a typical situation faced by most of the girls who are in a relationship. Their BF (Boy Friend) treats them like a personal property and without realizing put them in a cage called “RESTRICTIONS.” 

Most of the guys tend to forget the real meaning of love and try to take control over their Girl Friend's life. 

Hence, the common complaint is: "My BF doesn't let me chat to anyone, I get irritated by him because of all the restrictions he has put on me. We spoke about it, and he says he doesn't want to change. And this makes me want to get rid of him, but I love him so much that I cannot live without him. What should I do?"

We thought of finding a solution for it which is why we spoke to various experienced people about this situation, and after some long discussion we came up with an opinion that "These girls are innocent and just like us they must be able to live their life with freedom. Their problem can be solved if and only if their Boy Friend’s thoughts get polished well."

So we thought of writing an Article, which will hopefully help their BF realize that unknowingly they have been hurting their love with their nonmature thinking. 

Relationship Quote 1: Never Quit on each other. Talk and solve things by being down to earth and shaping each other's thoughts well. 

We don't think either of you are bad; we also don't believe that we know more than you. We are just attempting to make you realize few things which will surely help you as it has helped many successful relationships. Well, we are not trying to change you. We are only trying to tell you something which you might not have realized before.

Example: When we do engineering, we get knowledge based on the course we undergo and become an engineer. After this process we only get mature on that subject, we don’t change.

So here is an article about which we are talking to all the male who are in a relationship and probably are facing this situation. It’s not for girls to read, so please make your BF know it, and you can avoid reading it from here on.

                                                                  

What is the meaning of LOVE?

If you truly love someone, then your happiness should lie in their happiness. No matter what makes them happy, you should do everything possible just to see their smile. Your partner's dream should be your dream; your aim should be to help them achieve their goal. It doesn't matter they love you back or not. You must give them unconditional love. Even if you going away from their life is what they want, then say nothing and go away. You see how beautiful love is? This maturity is called the pure\ LOVE. 

Girls are just like us - Individuals with dreams, likes, and dislikes

Just think for a moment:

1. How would you feel if you weren't allowed to talk to other people, on your partner’s command? 

- Wouldn't you feel like your partner has no faith in you and your character? 

2.  How would you feel if you were not allowed to go out anywhere without taking permission?

- Wouldn't you feel like you are in jail? 

- Wouldn't you feel suffocated and irritated by them taking control over your life,?

Friends, we are all temporary here. We never know when will die. Future is unpredictable. Would you, in this short span like to spend your life in restrictions just because someone don’t trust you?

Life Quote: - Live every day like it's your last because someday it will be. So, let your GF do everything that makes her happy and you too enjoy with her.  PC- @Unsplash

2.      She is just a living being like you. Think how annoyed and scared she will be to take permission from you for everything. She has a brain; she does feel like doing what her mind says without taking anyone's permission. Would you like being in jail?  

True love would be trusting her and letting her live independent as she wants. Controlling someone’s life is not LOVE, it's SELFISH, as you are killing someone from inside by putting all these restrictions.

Let her be the way she was when you fell in love with her Mate. Love is not a cage. 

Relationship Quote: - Love is not a cage. Let your partner be the way she was when you fell in love with her.  PC- @AdinaVoicu

Friends, let your lover do what makes them happy freely. If something goes wrong, then it's your responsibility to protect her and solve it.

If you love a girl actually, make her feel so comfortable and free in this world that she smiles, laughs and play around happily without fear like a kid. Let her live her life. This trust is real LOVE. And as a lover, this is the right thing to do.

Are you afraid that she might leave you?

Friend, The first definition of LOVE itself tells that your happiness should lie in her happiness. So, trust her blindly and no matter what she does, never let your confidence break. Let her do whatever makes her happy, because her smile is more precious than anything.

If she likes to flirt with guys, let her flirt. If she likes to wear miniskirts and roam with her male friends, let her have fun. Don’t judge her. Girls are angels who are meant to be loved and never judged.

If a girl party or roam with her male friends in mini skirt:

- It doesn't mean she is a bitch. It only says she likes to look beautiful and party hard. 

If a girl flirts with other guys:

- It doesn't mean she is available for other boys. She does it to show off to you. She does it to get your attention. She will never cross her limits. Just trust her.

If she has to leave you, she can also leave you any moment. Talking to some guy would never make her leave you.

Make you girl so comfortable that she will enjoy her life on earth freely and happily like a kid without worrying or thinking about anything. As she knows, you will solve everything. Let her close her eyes and fall back in trust that you will catch her.

Relationship Quote: - Be a MAN on whom she can trust blindly. Be her confidence, not her fear, be her smile, not her sadness. PC- @jill111

The precious gift to your girl is FREEDOM, unbreakable TRUST, and pure LOVE.

You can't keep someone you love forcefully with you. 

If you love her:

-  Never ask for her Facebook, Twitter or Gmail password.  (Give her a little privacy for herself).

- Never tell her what to do unless she asks. (Give her the control of her life).

- Let her follow her brain freely and do what she like just like we guys do. If something goes wrong,     you solve it with a smile and make her comfortable enough to follow her mind and heart.

- Give her freedom to make mistakes. (Be her HERO).

- Let her chat or talk to whomever she want. (Don't spy on her, Trust her).

- Let her wear whatever dress she likes. 

- Let her choose her career by herself, and support her in it no matter what it is. 

- Never judge her. 

- If something bothers, tell her at once. If she still does that again, let her do.

-  Be her best friend. And,

-  Be a good listener.

This points might look too much, but it’s not. We are only asking you to love her sincerely and give her the freedom she deserves. After all, This is called true love.

Relationship Quote: - Give her the freedom to make mistakes. Let her live without fear, as you are now a man who will solve all the situation with a smile on your face. PC- @Unslpash