How To Solve Relationship Fights?

SOME RELATIONSHIP HAS SERIOUS PROBLEMS

let's look into it after reading few lines of a lover for his love, both in Hindi and English

(Hindi)

Kaise batau tujhe, ki mera gussa tha bas tujhe sambhaalneka ek zariya...!
Kaise batau tujhe, ki nahi seh pata, tera mujhse yun root jaana...!
Kaise batau tujhe, ki tune mere baaton ka doosra matlab hain samajha...!
Kaise batau tujhe, ki nahi sehpata tera mere pyaarpe bharosa na karna...!
Kaise batau tujhe, ki tune mujhe kitta galat hain samjha..!
Kaise batau tujhe, ki mere dill k kareeb hok bhi tu mujhe na samaj paayi ..! 

(English)

How to tell you, my anger was only a way to stop you from harming yourself..!
How to tell you, I can't bear you not talking to me..!
How to tell you, to understand my heart..!
How to tell you, I can't bear anyone including you judging our love..!
How to tell you, how much did you misunderstand me..!
How to tell you, though you live in my heart yet you didn't understand it..!

Well it's sad, isn't it? It is due to lack of understanding between the couple. You see Misunderstanding and distrust are the two simple words but so powerful that if it interferes with a relationship it can meddle with your brain and castigate new relationships so mercilessly that the latter often break down within days.

Solution:

Pre-Requisite: - If your BF puts restrictions on you and if he is not ready to compromise then make him read this post - Restrictions. Now that you both are willing to sort things out like mature adults, you can continue reading.

Solve Relationship Fights Calmly With Love

1. You and your companion must remain calm and follow the rules mentioned in point 3, during this mature chat.

2. It's imperative that you both should mutually want things to be as they were.

3. These are the rules you both should follow:-

a. You must stay calm and ready to be a good listener the entire time.

b. When one person talks, other has to listen and note down what point they have to ask or clarify when it's their turn to speak.

c. When one person talks, other can't interrupt or talk until the speaker tells, "I kept my points unfold, and now I am ready to listen."

d. If you didn't follow or hear what your partner said in between, still you can't interrupt. But you can make a note of it and ask about it later on or, raise your hand for your partner to be comfortable and let you speak when he/she is ready to take any query related to any of his words that might have seemed anomalous for you to jot down.

e. Note conclusion of each point and at last, make a list of all solution you found out and take 2 Xerox copies of it, and keep it in a file signed.

4. Follow your inferences to solve your problems.

If you love each other, it's always critical that you understand your partner by keeping yourself in their shoe. If your partner has trust issues or any other matter, then try to solve it slowly with love rather than making a mess and hassle of it.

Fighting will cause no good. Anger will give you a headache and make your life miserable. Violence and fights will divert you from your goal and light path. So, be mature and always handle the relationship with love.

Note: It should be mutual, only one partner trying to solve issues won't bring much success. Try to tell your partner how much you love him/her and make them ready to follow these steps.

If nothing works for you, and still you want to be with your partner, it's best for you to live as your partner wants. This medium will make him/her happy and in return will keep you happy.